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“Counseling through the Word” Devotional: Navigating Conflict with Grace

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“Counseling through the Word” Devotional: Navigating Conflict with Grace

Scripture: Matthew 18:15-20 (ESV):

“If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.”

Introduction

Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but how we handle it can either lead to healing or further hurt. In Matthew 18:15-20, Jesus provides a clear and compassionate process for resolving conflicts within the body of Christ. This passage reminds us that the goal of addressing conflict is not to win an argument, but to restore relationships and honor God.

Devotional Thought

Jesus’ instructions in Matthew 18:15-20 focus on reconciliation and restoration. When a conflict arises, the first step is to address the issue privately with the person involved. This approach keeps the matter from escalating and spreading, allowing for a peaceful resolution. The goal is to “gain your brother,” restoring the relationship rather than creating division.

If the initial attempt at reconciliation fails, Jesus provides additional steps that involve bringing others into the process. These witnesses can help mediate and bring clarity, ensuring that the situation is handled with fairness and love. Ultimately, if the person remains unrepentant, the issue is brought before the church. This final step is not about punishment but about protecting the unity and purity of the church while offering opportunities for repentance.

Navigating conflict with grace requires humility, patience, and a heart that seeks reconciliation. It’s about valuing the relationship and honoring God through the process. Whether you are the one addressing the conflict or the one being confronted, remember that Jesus is with you in the midst of it, guiding you toward peace and restoration.

Bringing it Home: Applying What We Learned

  • Address Conflict Privately: When conflicts arise, resist the urge to involve others prematurely. Speak directly and privately with the person involved, seeking to resolve the matter in a way that honors God.
  • Seek Reconciliation: Approach conflict with the goal of restoring relationships, not proving yourself right. Prioritize love and unity over winning an argument.
  • Involve Others When Necessary: If reconciliation isn’t achieved privately, seek the wisdom and support of others who can help mediate and bring clarity to the situation.

Prayer

Lord, help me navigate conflict with grace and humility. Give me the wisdom to address issues directly and the love to seek reconciliation above all else. Guide me in restoring relationships in a way that honors You. Amen.

Questions for Reflection

  • Have I been quick to involve others in my conflicts, or have I tried to resolve them privately first?
  • Do I prioritize winning an argument over restoring relationships?
  • How can I better seek reconciliation in my conflicts this week?

Take the Next Step on Your Journey

Thank you for joining me today. If you found this lesson helpful, I encourage you to explore more resources and support on my website, https://jameslongjr.org/. You can also watch my video on my YouTube channel.

Finally, would you consider joining our Lessons for Life monthly membership or our online group coaching, where you’ll find powerful coaching videos, a supportive community, and step-by-step guidance for lasting transformation?

Remember, true change is possible when you walk in God’s grace and for His glory. Until next time, may you find peace, hope, and joy in Christ alone. Blessings!

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